Q & A from the Authors:
Sometimes it feels like everyone has it all together... except me. How do you encourage people to lead their families in these moments of doubt?
Phil: Comparative parenting is a high risk way of assessing your parenting and family life. It is easy to fall into pride and fear driven complacency or anxiety based on false information. The fact is that you and your family are unique and special in God’s eyes. When you start putting yourself down based on what you think is going on in other families you will always be acting on inaccurate information. You will never know what internal price being paid by others for any external success you might see or know if it is worth it. A safe standard to use is one that love provides: Am I loving the best I can in the choices I make and helping my children learn to do the same?
Tricia: When we compare our weaknesses to others' strengths we feel defeated and worthless. Yet when we compare our strengths to others' weaknesses then pride slips in. The best thing is don't compare! I've come to a place where I'm able to appreciate the ways other families excel without having to feel bad about myself or my family. As I talk about in Lead Your Family Like Jesus, when our family discovered what we were “about”--what our label was—then we focused on excelling in those things, and not trying to keep up with those around us. For example, one of the things we're about is family meals. I might serve canned vegetables and grilled cheese one night but it's the experience. No one's life is like a Pinterest board. We all have “sharable” moments, but we're all a work in progress.
I LOVE Tricia's response that no ones life is a Pinterest board. That is so true in mine. I can't get anything to turn out like a photo! Not my house, my cooking, my children's appearance, my crafts.
Living in the hear and now, the reality of it is what is so important. We are unique and for us personally that means a larger family, and dynamics that don't always allow for things to be picture perfect.
This book gives you the blessing of "Saying yes to the Best and No to the Rest", and biblically backing it up.
This is one of those books that you can read snippets here and there and still get insight. One of those books you will shelve and keep and pass on to your own grown children to use. Modeling Jesus, that is what it is all about.
As I continue to glean from this book, be watching for snippets!!